What to do When you've Lost Sight of the Shore...

Words by Frou Williams.

On 2 April 1911 - thousands of women across Britain 'hid' from authorities to avoid being counted in the 1911 Census. The idea was that if women could not vote - they would not cooperate with the Government by being counted.

Why am I sharing this? Scrolling through social media at the streams of photos that people share, be it a beach, sunset, brunch, couple in love or a lycra clad body (the list goes on) - it's easy to lose sight of where you've come from and what you offer here today in the present moment; exactly as you are. 

Maybe this weekend you overindulged on booze, had too much cake, didn't sleep enough, was cranky with your partner, wasn't as present as you'd like to be, didn't go to the gym and maybe you didn't even wash your hair. Whenever I have my own moments of doubt or my inemy (that pesky inner critic) pipes up, I try to remind myself not only of how far I've come on an individual level, be it mind, body or soul but how far we collectively have come.

When I first start working with any client, we look back at where they've come from, medical right through to family and genetic history. Why? Because this makes up you. The nose on your face, the width of your hips and the size of your feet makes up a story from your ancestors. A beautiful tapestry that makes you 'you'. Only by looking back through history, be it our own, our families or culturally can we then understand how and what we need to do to move forward.

And when looking back, what a humbling experience in that if my biggest worry revolves around overindulgence, not making the gym, being able to do a handstand in yoga or fitting in a certain size of clothes then I consider myself incredibly privileged.

Don't get me wrong, having goals are important - there are no two ways about it but if you're anything like me, you hate the idea of positive affirmations. It conjures images of staring into a mirror and saying over and over 'you got this' - it just makes me cringe and think of that episode of Friend's and Bruce Willis 'you're just a love machinešŸ˜‚'.

Sadly lots of us are uneasy and dissatisfied with our lot, yet most of us know this to be true but we still get bogged down, anxious and even flat out depressed thinking we're living a life less than all our social media peers, friends and gym buddies. The power of the mind is incredible. Our minds are as important as our bodies, if not more so, in terms of our general health and wellbeing.

The point is, you're worth more than your weight, the filters and often the disillusion we build up of ourselves and where or who we 'should' be in our minds. 

So if nothing else, I hope you reflect on this weekend and know that whilst it's important to have goals, aspirations and to strive for excellence it's also important to give yourself a freaking break, pat yourself on the back for being human and acknowledge how fortunate we truly all are and appreciate all that we've come from.

Happy Sunday folks x