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Why Self Care Should be Practiced Daily...

Words by Frou Williams.

There are very few people (I know of none) who escape the rollercoaster of ups and downs surrounding self esteem, self worth and self image. I know it can be easy to look at someone else's life and believe that they've somehow worked out the magic formula and perhaps they have worked it out for them, but that formula is always going to be a work in progress which needs fine tuning every now and then.


It's also highly likely that your formula of self love and self acceptance is going to look and feel totally different for you because guess what?! WE ARE ALL UNIQUE!!!! And isn't that amazing and wonderful?! Who wants to be the same as everyone anyway? No sheep here. 

It's also not something which happens over night. There's twists and turns, ups and downs, 1 step forward and 5 back, sometimes 3 steps forward and 1 step back. And I speak from experience when I say it's a work in progress. Of course it is. Some days we wake up feeling fat, frumpy, unattractive and that we've somewhere lost our sparkle. Other days we wake up feeling on cloud nine and totally unstoppable. 

After years of feeling 'not quite good enough' and critiquing every inch of myself, I continue and will always continue to learn every day to be comfortable in being ME. I think it's about finding a balance and a place of acceptance within yourself.

A place which allows you the freedom to enjoy nights with friends, eat delicious food, move your body in a way that makes you feel fantastic and a place that doesn't leave you feeling guilty for not looking a certain way, for having that bread at dinner, that extra glass of wine or having that rest day. 

What a wonderful place to be, feeling content and at peace in who you are and what you bring to the table of life. Surely that is something worth striving for?

If we could be kinder to ourselves and others throughout this journey, remove judgement around what should be and try to remain positive roles models for younger generations then to me, that's a much more happy and healthy place to be.

What to do When you've Lost Sight of the Shore...

Words by Frou Williams.

On 2 April 1911 - thousands of women across Britain 'hid' from authorities to avoid being counted in the 1911 Census. The idea was that if women could not vote - they would not cooperate with the Government by being counted.

Why am I sharing this? Scrolling through social media at the streams of photos that people share, be it a beach, sunset, brunch, couple in love or a lycra clad body (the list goes on) - it's easy to lose sight of where you've come from and what you offer here today in the present moment; exactly as you are. 

Maybe this weekend you overindulged on booze, had too much cake, didn't sleep enough, was cranky with your partner, wasn't as present as you'd like to be, didn't go to the gym and maybe you didn't even wash your hair. Whenever I have my own moments of doubt or my inemy (that pesky inner critic) pipes up, I try to remind myself not only of how far I've come on an individual level, be it mind, body or soul but how far we collectively have come.

When I first start working with any client, we look back at where they've come from, medical right through to family and genetic history. Why? Because this makes up you. The nose on your face, the width of your hips and the size of your feet makes up a story from your ancestors. A beautiful tapestry that makes you 'you'. Only by looking back through history, be it our own, our families or culturally can we then understand how and what we need to do to move forward.

And when looking back, what a humbling experience in that if my biggest worry revolves around overindulgence, not making the gym, being able to do a handstand in yoga or fitting in a certain size of clothes then I consider myself incredibly privileged.

Don't get me wrong, having goals are important - there are no two ways about it but if you're anything like me, you hate the idea of positive affirmations. It conjures images of staring into a mirror and saying over and over 'you got this' - it just makes me cringe and think of that episode of Friend's and Bruce Willis 'you're just a love machine😂'.

Sadly lots of us are uneasy and dissatisfied with our lot, yet most of us know this to be true but we still get bogged down, anxious and even flat out depressed thinking we're living a life less than all our social media peers, friends and gym buddies. The power of the mind is incredible. Our minds are as important as our bodies, if not more so, in terms of our general health and wellbeing.

The point is, you're worth more than your weight, the filters and often the disillusion we build up of ourselves and where or who we 'should' be in our minds. 

So if nothing else, I hope you reflect on this weekend and know that whilst it's important to have goals, aspirations and to strive for excellence it's also important to give yourself a freaking break, pat yourself on the back for being human and acknowledge how fortunate we truly all are and appreciate all that we've come from.

Happy Sunday folks x